Updated: Jul 2
I read an article by Jay Forte which I found quite interesting. The article talked about a dog that came running off the front porch and ran right to the edge of the property. He stopped obviously aware of some special force field that marked his perimeter. There was a sign that said invisible fence and could see a signal that sent out to help dogs know their boundaries. This got me thinking, he said. We each have an “invisible fence” – we call it our limits. We know when we get close to the limits because something emotional, painful, fearful or otherwise intense and emotional surfaces. We then treat that feeling as a limit – a place we stay away from. But little do we know that if we push past that spot, we would see that it creates an entirely new area for us to be part of – larger, grander and greater than we ever knew existed because we have been limited by our invisible fence. So, what creates our fences asked Jay Forte? It is our life experiences – the events, conversations, school, traditions and beliefs that have created who we are at this exact moment. But none of these have to be true – they are just what we think are true. Like the dog with the collar that is afraid of the potential shock, we stay away from things that we think based on our assumptions, interpretations or limiting beliefs, will hurt or scare us. What if instead we saw our world without fences – invisible or otherwise? What if we were to start to see that we have unlimited potential instead of being limited? I believe, says Jay Forte, we have the ability to be extraordinary in some things in life – things that we have previously told ourselves we shouldn’t even try, shouldn’t expect, or won’t succeed at. We are each gifted with unique talents, strengths and passions that allow us to be amazing at some things. To discover our areas of greatness, we must walk to our “fences” to see that there is no charge, no hurt – just some fear; in most cases we simply had a story about how it would be.
A full life is about moving past our fences – our self- imposed limits. We start life with few if any fears; we then learn them as we move through life. Instead of trying things and pushing our limits, we learn to clearly define our limits, and once established, not challenge them. It may show as being raised in one particular faith and being afraid to quest for greater wisdom by investigating others. Or, that we are told that our tradition is to celebrate a holiday in a particular way, and we continue it year after year without ever trying something new. Or, we work in jobs that we don’t really like but are afraid to try our own business or work in roles that we are passionate about. We build fences to protect ourselves from the unknown, and the result is they limit how great our lives can be.